07 MAY 2019, BY MY PASSPORT TO SHANGRILA
On the 1st January every year we tell ourselves this year is going to be the year. You know the ‘New Year, New Me’ resolution.
You instantly find your gym has become a lot busier than it was with everyone on the get fit campaign. Suddenly you see photographs of fruit smoothies and avocado salads littering your Instagram and Facebook feeds. In truth we shouldn’t have to wait until the clock strikes midnight on 1st January to make some changes in our lives.
As the fireworks exploded ringing in 2019 I didn’t make any resolutions, I made changes. Resolutions, in my view, are a quick fix like detoxing for a couple of weeks then having a greasy burger washed down with a pint of beer. It’s just not realistic, but making changes are. Making small positive changes over time will help you reach your goals and has a knock on effect towards the rest of your life and how you look at it.
Here are a few things I’ve learnt so far in 2019 by doing just that…
NOTHING FEELS BETTER THAN BEING YOURSELF
My life has become so much better now that I am no longer trying to ‘fit in’ and it can be hard to break that habit. Stop changing who you are to fit in, your interests, your style, your morals, your personality. Surround yourself with those people who love you for you and don’t criticise. The real you is better than any impostor could ever be, so embrace it.
CHANGE IS IMPORTANT
I made some major changes at the start of 2019, fueled by the turning of my 40th birthday (we won’t say anymore on this)
I was tired of walking to the top of the stairs at home and becoming out of breath. Where was that athletic person that used to run for an hour around the public parks or swim 100 laps of a pool when I were in my younger years?
Another aspect of my life was I had become complacent with my other half. I took that person for granted. I realised I hadn’t said ‘I love you’ nearly as often as I used to. Again, I had been caught up in the lives of complete strangers through social media than paying attention to what I already had.
YOU STILL DON’T NEED TO HAVE IT ALL BY 40
Let me tell you a secret. The way you wanted your life to be when you were 20 years old probably isn’t going to happen and that’s OK. When I turned 30 I thought I had to have everything in my life sorted and planned by now. The house, money in the bank, dream job etc, but that just isn’t reality, that’s simply society making you believe you should. By 40 you find a true sense of being and where you fit into the world. I may still not have the dream job or stacks of money in the bank but I am comfortable and I do own my own home.
We are constantly growing, the world is constantly changing and how things were in 1995 is not how they are in 2019. If you have a great family, great friends, can afford to pay the bills and have fun on the side then you are doing amazing.
TRAVEL IS STILL GOOD FOR YOU
Anyone that has met me knows this is my life motto and that will never change. We only have one life and the world is a big place. In 2018 I traveled to Cyprus twice, Dubai, Hanoi, Kuala Lumpur and Bali. 2019 sees me travelling to Morocco, Cyprus, Amsterdam, Sydney, Melbourne, Brisbane and the Gold Coast, Auckland and Houston.
Travelling to the USA or a city in Europe just for a spontaneous weekend away or breakfast in The Netherlands isn’t, for me, unheard of.
SPENDING TIME WITH GOOD COMPANY IS BETTER THAN PARTYING
When I were in my 20s I wouldn’t think anything of spending £100 on a night out fueled by booze and club music, with a very sorry looking limp burger on the cab ride home to then spend the night hugging a toilet bowl throwing up.
Fast forward to 40 and I am so lucky to have an amazing group of friends, and spending weekends catching up with them over some ‘grown up’ food, drinking Spritzers and exchanging memories. This beats sitting in a loud and overcrowded nightclub any day. Does that make me sound really old?